We’re building a modern-day school for awakened relating.
A path of awakening through every relationship that shapes you — beginning with the deepest one of all.
Beneath every relationship you have is a deeper one — your relationship with life itself.
When that relationship is secure, we call it secure attachment with life: the trust that life is on your side, that you can rest into reality, that love is here even when you’re certain it isn’t.
This is what awakening means to us — the remembrance that life has been with us and for us all along. Co-awakening is remembering it together.
Everything this school offers comes from this ground, and exists to cultivate it.
The Process
The three movements underneath everything we teach.
Make contact with reality.
Turn toward what’s actually here. Pull awareness out of the story, the thoughts, the looping — down into the raw sensation in the body. That felt sense, stripped of interpretation, is where truth lives.
Welcome everything as sacred.
Whatever contact reveals, welcome it. It’s already true, and wanting it to be otherwise is just the mind trying to escape what is. There’s a sacred perfection to what’s actually being felt.
Come back into union.
Reintegrate what was exiled. Remember the union that was always already there. This is how secure attachment with life is built: by un-exiling everything you pushed away.
The Principles
Everyone here is a creator. We create the offerings; you, inside them, create your own awakening. The same three pillars hold at both ends — how we build, and what the work must carry to transmit anything real.
Create from the edge of awakening.
The work has to meet us at our own edge, or it won’t carry the charge. Teach from a place of comfortable knowing and the life force gets cut short — what transmits is comfort, not awakening.
So we build with our own edge as the compass. What’s made from a real edge meets you at yours.
Create from eros, bottoms-up.
Real things grow up from what’s true, not down from a plan.
We let the work rise from the body’s aliveness and the heart’s contact with the people it’s for, and we keep it emergent, leaving space for what wants to happen — including your own becoming. What this school makes may not look like what any of us pictured.
Create from the inside out.
The outer world mirrors the inner. Whatever we relate to as a problem out there — the thing that loops us, pulls us out of our bodies — is a mirror for something inside asking to be met. Meet it, and reality reorganizes.
Every offering is built to be that mirror: to show you your inner world so it can finally be met.
Why a School
We couldn’t find the school we needed. So we’re building it.
Most inner work teaches you to manage yourself. Regulate better. Cope better. Think better thoughts.
It helps — to a point. But the fear that keeps returning, the desire you’ve buried, the places where you brace against reality instead of resting into it — those go untouched.
We’re weaving attachment, desire, fear, and eros into a single, coherent path. What most work leaves untouched becomes the curriculum for awakening.
What We’re Building
This school is being built in real time. Here’s where we are and where we’re going.
Writings & Tea Ceremonies
Weekly essays on partnership, sex, fatherhood, and the sacred art of desire. The teaching in written form.
Thursday and Saturday mornings, we open our Boulder home for tea — a simple ritual where the nervous system settles and connection deepens without agenda.
Workshops
The Sacred Edge — a recurring embodied ritual of movement, relational practice, and deep attachment healing, for whatever is bringing you to your edge.
True Contact — the cohort we’re building now: several weeks of living the three movements — contact, welcome, union — together in practice.
Additional workshops on partnership, playing with fire, and more are emerging next.
Couples Coaching
The Deeper Yes — a 4-month coaching container for couples devoted to their relationship. Become intimate with the hidden architecture of your relationship. Choose each other, again and again.
In person in Boulder, or remotely over Zoom.
The Intensive
A week-long immersion where everything converges — attachment repair, rupture work, desire reclamation, sexual practice, and the integration of all of it into the life waiting for you at home.
This is what we’re building toward.
The intensive is where partnership stops being something you maintain and becomes something you practice — with the same devotion and rigor you’d bring to any discipline that matters.
Every other offering feeds into and orbits this work. Pilot program in development.
Help Build This School
We’re in active research for the workshops, circles, and intensive — and we want to hear from singles and couples who feel called to this path. If you want to shape what we’re building, we want to talk to you.
Make contact with what’s real.
Welcome everything.
Reunite with all that you are.
